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Procrastination will delay your life

Procrastination Will Delay Your Life

We all procrastinate. Hell, just this morning I delayed my workout for 2 hours because I just couldn’t bring myself to do it before all the coffee had kicked in. Those little choices we make every day to push aside to-do items and push ahead deadlines can wreak havoc on our productivity. And, over time, can delay our success levels in a big way.

But I’m not talking about the little stuff. I’m talking about procrastinating the BIG STUFF. Not the daily workout, but making your health a priority. Not getting to everything on your to-do list today, but deciding what you want your life to look like in 3 years.

This month I turn 47. All those times my parents told me to enjoy every minute because it all goes by in a blink? Yep, they were right about that one, too.

And I’ve enjoyed most of it. Minus a few awful relationships I shouldn’t have been in and jobs I shouldn’t have taken. And minus that period in my 20s when I had absolutely no clue who I was and what I was meant to do.

When I think about the biggest highlights so far, they seem to revolve around the choices I’ve made (or have been made for me) that led me to something new and scary before I thought I was ready.

I could’ve waited longer to leave the practice of law, hoping it got better or more fulfilling or somehow I would magically morph into the kind of person who would love a career as a litigator. Instead, I did the scary thing and walked away and into a new career and a new city where I had no contacts and no clue what was ahead.

Our first son Nate came much earlier than planned, the product of a “make up session” from one of our biggest fights ever. Was I ready to be a mom? Was John out of med school yet? Did this fit our plan? No, No and Hell No. I was terrified, but that little nugget ended up coming at the perfect time, making me grow and stretch as a human and learn a whole new level of love.

Then there was starting my own direct sales business. I could’ve easily said it was a horrible time to add something to my very full plate (a baby, a toddler, a full PR client roster, community volunteering, trying to lose baby weight). But I got a bigger plate and, as they say, the rest is history.

And intellectually it probably appeared like a horrible time for me to write my book. Our business was exploding, the kids were getting busier with extra-curricular activities, I was getting busier with volunteering and philanthropy, and we were going to be spending a month traveling around Australia. But I did it anyway.

It would’ve been really easy for me to say to myself at all of these crossroads, “The timing isn’t right. This can’t happen now.”

To be honest, I did say that to myself, every single time. My answer is what made all the difference, “There’s never a perfect time for anything.” Followed by a “And really, what the hell are you waiting for?”

I love what Brené Brown wrote in her book Wholehearted: “Midlife: when the Universe grabs your shoulders and tells you ‘I’m not f-ing around, use the gifts you were given.’”

I’m grateful that it didn’t take me to mid-life to stop f-ing around and get to the gifts I was given and to do the things that I wanted. Yet with each passing year, I’m f-ging around less and less, saying No more and more and unapologetically pursuing the endeavors that I know will allow me to serve others while also lighting up my soul.

If you’re procrastinating the BIG STUFF, it’s time you asked yourself what the hell you’re waiting for. If you have the courage to dig deep enough, I bet you a big slice of gluten-free birthday cake that at the root of your hesitation is fear. Maybe fear that you don’t have enough time. But more likely fear that you can’t do it, you won’t be good enough, you’ll be judged, you don’t have what it takes or you aren’t worthy. I know, because I’ve asked myself all of these and more.

Here’s what I know as I stare down 47 candles and countless lessons learned: It’s always the perfect time to go after what we really want.

As I blow out my candles, here’s my wish for YOU: On your next birthday you’ll be able to reflect on the past year and declare, “That was the age I stopped procrastinating the BIG STUFF.”

It’s about f-ing time.



GOYDS Literacy Program Thankyou



Many of you know that what got me to finally tackle the challenging and scary task of writing my book wasn't just the idea that I could help others grow a business like mine. I had a real sense of urgency once it dawned on me that the book could help others around the world have brighter futures.

I was so inspired to learn that:

  • If all children in low-income countries left school with basic reading skills, 171 million people could be lifted out of poverty.
  • A child born to a literate woman is twice as likely to survive past age five.
  • Proceeds from my book could make a real difference in the futures of kids on the other side of the world who don't have the opportunities that Nate and Bebe have had.

So John and I decided to partner up with SF-based Room to Read, which focuses on deep, systemic transformation within schools in Asia and Africa. They've created an innovative model that can be replicated, localized and sustained by governments.

We thought it would take a whole year to be able to fund a school literacy program. But because of the incredible support for my book, it took only 4 months. Then the fun part of trying to figure out where we wanted the literacy program to begin, including the consideration of one day wanting to visit with Nate and Bebe to meet the children all of you–my enthusiastic readers–have impacted.

It's with overflowing excitement that John and I announce the establishment of a literacy program at the Ntsie Primary School in the Mpumalanga region of South Africa! This school serves Grades 1-5, and the program will include the creation of a separate school library (instead of the library being in a little corner of a classroom), teacher training and support and reading and writing instruction support.

Room to Read conservatively estimates that our support of this program will benefit more than 1500 students over 10 years!

We look forward to learning about the impact the program is having on these kids, and we'll be thrilled to share updates with you.

Huge thank you to everyone who bought my book, posted about it on social media, gave it an Amazon review, made it the focus of a book group or team training series and gifted it to your biz partners. You've helped me inspire tens of thousands of people Get Over Their Damn Selves, and we're just getting started.

Please remember, you're also helping children in eastern South Africa dream bigger for themselves, their families and their community. Mpumalanga is the Zulu name for “the place where the sun rises”, and I can think of no better endeavor than helping others have brighter futures!

To purchase your copy of Get Over Your Damn Self –> click here.

Making Exercise Part of Your Business

It’s time to make 2017 the year you got healthy. To be a thriving, efficient entrepreneur, this is non-negotiable because keeping yourself healthy is crucial for building and sustaining a healthy business. So as you work to use your time more efficiently, it’s going to open up time for you to work your bod. Because when you do, your body works better, your mind works better, it’s easier to keep stress in control.

And when everything’s working better inside, your business is going to work better too. Tony Robbins talks about about our “state.” Your state is how you’re feeling. My goal is to live in an amazing state. Can’t think clearly? Feeling too low-energy or low-confidence to make the calls you need? Feeling a bit blue? Then change your state.

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Making the Most of the Sleep You Can Get

In this episode of LiveFullOutTV, we’re talking about sleep. As a husband, a dad and an entrepreneur, I treasure sleep. And as a doctor, I know how important it is to not only get enough sleep but quality sleep. Let’s face it, when you’re trying to build a successful business while also juggling the rest of your life, it’s not always possible to get as much sleep as you want. So I want to talk about how to make the most of the sleep you can get. Continue reading “Making the Most of the Sleep You Can Get”

Fall In Love With Your Life

(This week Romi collaborates with her Valentine, her husband John, to share their thoughts on love.)

Valentine’s Day is upon us, and the unrelenting marketing push would have us believe that love is getting beautiful bling or having a dozen roses show up at the door. While we participate in the romantic rituals as much as the next couple, love isn’t about the physical things we get. We also know that romantic love is only one type of love that’s essential to live a rich life. Continue reading “Fall In Love With Your Life”

How a doctor, dad and entrepreneur continues his quest to Live Full Out

(Today Romi’s husband John takes over the keyboard.)

Each year, August and September are jam-packed months for our family. We celebrate three of our birthdays – mine, Romi’s and Nate’s – plus our wedding anniversary. There’s also Rosh Hashanah (the Jewish New Year) and Yom Kippur (the most solemn holiday in Judaism). There’s back-to-school and the anniversary of 9.11. It’s a time of rejoicing, reflecting, and renewing our commitment to becoming better people. It’s a time to ask ourselves how we can make our lives full of purpose, improve the lives of our family and all those around us, and how we can contribute to making the world a better place. Continue reading “How a doctor, dad and entrepreneur continues his quest to Live Full Out”