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Procrastination will delay your life

Procrastination Will Delay Your Life

We all procrastinate. Hell, just this morning I delayed my workout for 2 hours because I just couldn’t bring myself to do it before all the coffee had kicked in. Those little choices we make every day to push aside to-do items and push ahead deadlines can wreak havoc on our productivity. And, over time, can delay our success levels in a big way.

But I’m not talking about the little stuff. I’m talking about procrastinating the BIG STUFF. Not the daily workout, but making your health a priority. Not getting to everything on your to-do list today, but deciding what you want your life to look like in 3 years.

This month I turn 47. All those times my parents told me to enjoy every minute because it all goes by in a blink? Yep, they were right about that one, too.

And I’ve enjoyed most of it. Minus a few awful relationships I shouldn’t have been in and jobs I shouldn’t have taken. And minus that period in my 20s when I had absolutely no clue who I was and what I was meant to do.

When I think about the biggest highlights so far, they seem to revolve around the choices I’ve made (or have been made for me) that led me to something new and scary before I thought I was ready.

I could’ve waited longer to leave the practice of law, hoping it got better or more fulfilling or somehow I would magically morph into the kind of person who would love a career as a litigator. Instead, I did the scary thing and walked away and into a new career and a new city where I had no contacts and no clue what was ahead.

Our first son Nate came much earlier than planned, the product of a “make up session” from one of our biggest fights ever. Was I ready to be a mom? Was John out of med school yet? Did this fit our plan? No, No and Hell No. I was terrified, but that little nugget ended up coming at the perfect time, making me grow and stretch as a human and learn a whole new level of love.

Then there was starting my own direct sales business. I could’ve easily said it was a horrible time to add something to my very full plate (a baby, a toddler, a full PR client roster, community volunteering, trying to lose baby weight). But I got a bigger plate and, as they say, the rest is history.

And intellectually it probably appeared like a horrible time for me to write my book. Our business was exploding, the kids were getting busier with extra-curricular activities, I was getting busier with volunteering and philanthropy, and we were going to be spending a month traveling around Australia. But I did it anyway.

It would’ve been really easy for me to say to myself at all of these crossroads, “The timing isn’t right. This can’t happen now.”

To be honest, I did say that to myself, every single time. My answer is what made all the difference, “There’s never a perfect time for anything.” Followed by a “And really, what the hell are you waiting for?”

I love what Brené Brown wrote in her book Wholehearted: “Midlife: when the Universe grabs your shoulders and tells you ‘I’m not f-ing around, use the gifts you were given.’”

I’m grateful that it didn’t take me to mid-life to stop f-ing around and get to the gifts I was given and to do the things that I wanted. Yet with each passing year, I’m f-ging around less and less, saying No more and more and unapologetically pursuing the endeavors that I know will allow me to serve others while also lighting up my soul.

If you’re procrastinating the BIG STUFF, it’s time you asked yourself what the hell you’re waiting for. If you have the courage to dig deep enough, I bet you a big slice of gluten-free birthday cake that at the root of your hesitation is fear. Maybe fear that you don’t have enough time. But more likely fear that you can’t do it, you won’t be good enough, you’ll be judged, you don’t have what it takes or you aren’t worthy. I know, because I’ve asked myself all of these and more.

Here’s what I know as I stare down 47 candles and countless lessons learned: It’s always the perfect time to go after what we really want.

As I blow out my candles, here’s my wish for YOU: On your next birthday you’ll be able to reflect on the past year and declare, “That was the age I stopped procrastinating the BIG STUFF.”

It’s about f-ing time.



How to Eliminate Time-Suckers

It’s #TransformationTuesday in this episode of LiveFullOutTV, and I'm talking about how to find more time in our days for the important stuff, including building a life-changing business. I’m fielding a question from a busy mom who’s overwhelmed and constantly scrambling for more time, including time for her business. I’m excited to share one thing that’s helped me be more productive, efficient and able to focus on the things that are most important to me. It’s not only been key to my success, it’s also been key to my sanity as I’ve grown a large, lucrative business around our kids, travel, community service and a rich social life. Let me help you identify and eliminate your Time-Suckers. Continue reading “How to Eliminate Time-Suckers”

Choose One Word to Live Full Out

If you read my New Year’s blog last year, I shared with you a process I went through (and asked our team to do) to prepare for the new year. It’s about what each of us want out of this year and what we're willing to do to make it happen.

Once the ball drops, we’re used to hearing and seeing “New Year, New You.” But I think the greatest growth in life – and the greatest rewards – come from being brave enough to hold up a mirror, acknowledge our challenges and shortcomings, and dedicate ourselves to self-improvement. Continue reading “Choose One Word to Live Full Out”

What #GivingTuesday teaches us about Living Full Out

I’ve been lucky enough to land in a profession that’s built on the principle of giving. By giving to our teams with support, inspiration, collaboration and community, we not only reach our individual goals, but help all of them reach theirs, too. This way of doing business is the most fulfilling professional endeavor of my life and has had spilled over into my personal life and our family in countless ways. A big side benefit of this pay-it-forward business and life philosophy is the ability we now have to give more time and resources to our communities and the causes dear to our hearts. We have learned how much richer life is when you help lift others up – doing well by doing good. Continue reading “What #GivingTuesday teaches us about Living Full Out”

Strip Away Your Fears and Go Naked!

The company John and I work with, Rodan + Fields™, is running a fun campaign all summer — #RFGoNaked. We’re all on a mission to help women break up with make up, to save time every day, let our pores breathe and our beautiful skin shine through.

But when I first heard about this campaign, I immediately thought about another way we should all go naked that’s just as important. Continue reading “Strip Away Your Fears and Go Naked!”

What To Do With Your Tax Refund

Are you still smarting after paying this year's taxes? Maybe it's time you thought about reducing next year's tax burden through a savvy, part-time business of your own.

This year, the average tax refund is $3,034. By investing a less than third of that, it's possible to become a turn-key entrepreneur and grow your own business leveraging a global brand and all the resources of a multi-million dollar corporation. Continue reading “What To Do With Your Tax Refund”

Is Our Obsession with Social Media Keeping Us from Living Full Out?

On a cross-country flight recently I was watching The Secret Life of Walter Middy, with Ben Stiller playing a day-dreamer who escapes his anonymous life by disappearing into a world of fantasies filled with heroism, romance and action. And then he starts really living by having real-life adventures on a quest to find famed LIFE photographer Sean O’Connell (perfectly played by Sean Penn), a mysterious adventurer who has become a kind of rock star of the photographic world, renowned for his relentless commitment to chasing a story no matter the cost. Continue reading “Is Our Obsession with Social Media Keeping Us from Living Full Out?”

Fall In Love With Your Life

(This week Romi collaborates with her Valentine, her husband John, to share their thoughts on love.)

Valentine’s Day is upon us, and the unrelenting marketing push would have us believe that love is getting beautiful bling or having a dozen roses show up at the door. While we participate in the romantic rituals as much as the next couple, love isn’t about the physical things we get. We also know that romantic love is only one type of love that’s essential to live a rich life. Continue reading “Fall In Love With Your Life”

Choose Your One Word to Live Full Out

New Year, New You. We hear that all the time as we roll into another year.

But I’m not sure a New Me is what I’m going for. I’ve spent 43 years becoming who I am and feel like I’m just starting to get to the core of what I’m supposed to offer the world and what makes me really happy. So I don’t want a new me; I want to continue to become more of the me I’m meant to be.

So instead of joining in on the New Year New You bandwagon, I want to suggest New Year Better You. Or New Year, Renewed Purpose and Priorities. Sure, it’s not quite as poetic and catchy, but as we think about the next 12 months and what we want to experience and accomplish, and how we want to grow, isn’t it more fitting? Continue reading “Choose Your One Word to Live Full Out”

Pay attention to Cyber Monday for more than the deals

On Cyber Monday we jump at the chance to get screaming deals for holiday gift giving without having to schlep to the stores and brave the crowds. It’s
a brilliant concept that’s clearly working. Last year $1.465 billion dollars were spent online on this day.

For those of us who are social entrepreneurs, we enjoy the benefits of Cyber Monday everyday. Our successes aren’t just fueled by the ease of online shopping. They’re also spurred by the power of our networks and word-of-mouth marketing. Today, the number one reason people make a buying decision for products and services is the recommendation of others. People like John and me have been able to build turn-key businesses of our own that leverage e-commerce and conversations we’d be having anyway to compete nationally (and soon internationally) in the multi-billion-dollar anti-aging skincare and at-home skincare tool markets. Continue reading “Pay attention to Cyber Monday for more than the deals”