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Procrastination will delay your life

Procrastination Will Delay Your Life

We all procrastinate. Hell, just this morning I delayed my workout for 2 hours because I just couldn’t bring myself to do it before all the coffee had kicked in. Those little choices we make every day to push aside to-do items and push ahead deadlines can wreak havoc on our productivity. And, over time, can delay our success levels in a big way.

But I’m not talking about the little stuff. I’m talking about procrastinating the BIG STUFF. Not the daily workout, but making your health a priority. Not getting to everything on your to-do list today, but deciding what you want your life to look like in 3 years.

This month I turn 47. All those times my parents told me to enjoy every minute because it all goes by in a blink? Yep, they were right about that one, too.

And I’ve enjoyed most of it. Minus a few awful relationships I shouldn’t have been in and jobs I shouldn’t have taken. And minus that period in my 20s when I had absolutely no clue who I was and what I was meant to do.

When I think about the biggest highlights so far, they seem to revolve around the choices I’ve made (or have been made for me) that led me to something new and scary before I thought I was ready.

I could’ve waited longer to leave the practice of law, hoping it got better or more fulfilling or somehow I would magically morph into the kind of person who would love a career as a litigator. Instead, I did the scary thing and walked away and into a new career and a new city where I had no contacts and no clue what was ahead.

Our first son Nate came much earlier than planned, the product of a “make up session” from one of our biggest fights ever. Was I ready to be a mom? Was John out of med school yet? Did this fit our plan? No, No and Hell No. I was terrified, but that little nugget ended up coming at the perfect time, making me grow and stretch as a human and learn a whole new level of love.

Then there was starting my own direct sales business. I could’ve easily said it was a horrible time to add something to my very full plate (a baby, a toddler, a full PR client roster, community volunteering, trying to lose baby weight). But I got a bigger plate and, as they say, the rest is history.

And intellectually it probably appeared like a horrible time for me to write my book. Our business was exploding, the kids were getting busier with extra-curricular activities, I was getting busier with volunteering and philanthropy, and we were going to be spending a month traveling around Australia. But I did it anyway.

It would’ve been really easy for me to say to myself at all of these crossroads, “The timing isn’t right. This can’t happen now.”

To be honest, I did say that to myself, every single time. My answer is what made all the difference, “There’s never a perfect time for anything.” Followed by a “And really, what the hell are you waiting for?”

I love what Brené Brown wrote in her book Wholehearted: “Midlife: when the Universe grabs your shoulders and tells you ‘I’m not f-ing around, use the gifts you were given.’”

I’m grateful that it didn’t take me to mid-life to stop f-ing around and get to the gifts I was given and to do the things that I wanted. Yet with each passing year, I’m f-ging around less and less, saying No more and more and unapologetically pursuing the endeavors that I know will allow me to serve others while also lighting up my soul.

If you’re procrastinating the BIG STUFF, it’s time you asked yourself what the hell you’re waiting for. If you have the courage to dig deep enough, I bet you a big slice of gluten-free birthday cake that at the root of your hesitation is fear. Maybe fear that you don’t have enough time. But more likely fear that you can’t do it, you won’t be good enough, you’ll be judged, you don’t have what it takes or you aren’t worthy. I know, because I’ve asked myself all of these and more.

Here’s what I know as I stare down 47 candles and countless lessons learned: It’s always the perfect time to go after what we really want.

As I blow out my candles, here’s my wish for YOU: On your next birthday you’ll be able to reflect on the past year and declare, “That was the age I stopped procrastinating the BIG STUFF.”

It’s about f-ing time.

XO,

Romi

How Husbands Can Help Their Wives This Holiday Season

Despite all the highlight reels on social media of holiday merry-making, December isn’t all mistletoe and eggnog, especially for entrepreneurs. It's easy to feel stressed, anxious and overwhelmed. And most of the stress is experienced by women. According to the American Psychiatric Association, holiday stress has a particular impact on women, who bear the weight of many of the holiday traditions and celebrations and the heavy lifting that goals along with it.

Despite living in a time when there is more gender equality than ever, women are still the main ones who are preparing meals and decorating the home. Doing the gift shopping. Wrapping gifts. Organizing the social calendar. Not surprising, women have a harder time relaxing during the holidays and are more likely to fall into bad habits to manage their stress, like comfort eating. Cheesecake and wine anyone? Or, if you're my wife, a bar of dark chocolate and a jar of peanut butter.

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What #GivingTuesday teaches us about Living Full Out

I’ve been lucky enough to land in a profession that’s built on the principle of giving. By giving to our teams with support, inspiration, collaboration and community, we not only reach our individual goals, but help all of them reach theirs, too. This way of doing business is the most fulfilling professional endeavor of my life and has had spilled over into my personal life and our family in countless ways. A big side benefit of this pay-it-forward business and life philosophy is the ability we now have to give more time and resources to our communities and the causes dear to our hearts. We have learned how much richer life is when you help lift others up – doing well by doing good. Continue reading “What #GivingTuesday teaches us about Living Full Out”

Is Our Obsession with Social Media Keeping Us from Living Full Out?

On a cross-country flight recently I was watching The Secret Life of Walter Middy, with Ben Stiller playing a day-dreamer who escapes his anonymous life by disappearing into a world of fantasies filled with heroism, romance and action. And then he starts really living by having real-life adventures on a quest to find famed LIFE photographer Sean O’Connell (perfectly played by Sean Penn), a mysterious adventurer who has become a kind of rock star of the photographic world, renowned for his relentless commitment to chasing a story no matter the cost. Continue reading “Is Our Obsession with Social Media Keeping Us from Living Full Out?”

Fall In Love With Your Life

(This week Romi collaborates with her Valentine, her husband John, to share their thoughts on love.)

Valentine’s Day is upon us, and the unrelenting marketing push would have us believe that love is getting beautiful bling or having a dozen roses show up at the door. While we participate in the romantic rituals as much as the next couple, love isn’t about the physical things we get. We also know that romantic love is only one type of love that’s essential to live a rich life. Continue reading “Fall In Love With Your Life”

Choose Your One Word to Live Full Out

New Year, New You. We hear that all the time as we roll into another year.

But I’m not sure a New Me is what I’m going for. I’ve spent 43 years becoming who I am and feel like I’m just starting to get to the core of what I’m supposed to offer the world and what makes me really happy. So I don’t want a new me; I want to continue to become more of the me I’m meant to be.

So instead of joining in on the New Year New You bandwagon, I want to suggest New Year Better You. Or New Year, Renewed Purpose and Priorities. Sure, it’s not quite as poetic and catchy, but as we think about the next 12 months and what we want to experience and accomplish, and how we want to grow, isn’t it more fitting? Continue reading “Choose Your One Word to Live Full Out”

How a doctor, dad and entrepreneur continues his quest to Live Full Out

(Today Romi’s husband John takes over the keyboard.)

Each year, August and September are jam-packed months for our family. We celebrate three of our birthdays – mine, Romi’s and Nate’s – plus our wedding anniversary. There’s also Rosh Hashanah (the Jewish New Year) and Yom Kippur (the most solemn holiday in Judaism). There’s back-to-school and the anniversary of 9.11. It’s a time of rejoicing, reflecting, and renewing our commitment to becoming better people. It’s a time to ask ourselves how we can make our lives full of purpose, improve the lives of our family and all those around us, and how we can contribute to making the world a better place. Continue reading “How a doctor, dad and entrepreneur continues his quest to Live Full Out”

Make this the last year you have the Post-Labor Day Blues

Another Labor Day is behind us. This day of barbecues and summer send-offs is actually designed to be an annual national tribute to the contributions workers have made to the strength, prosperity and well-being of our country.

Yet every year, this one being no exception, I run into people who are elated to be on a long weekend away from their jobs and dreading going back to the office come Tuesday. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the average American (ages 25-54, with children), works 8.8 hours a day. That’s a whole lot of time to be doing something you don’t love. Continue reading “Make this the last year you have the Post-Labor Day Blues”

Most Workers Dream of a Career Change

But Why Aren't They Turning Those Dreams Into a Reality?

A recent survey by the University of Phoenix shows 55% of workers are interested in a career change. This number doesn't surprise me one bit, because every day I talk to people who are looking for more money and flexibility or simply a new adventure. Continue reading “Most Workers Dream of a Career Change”

What will the next four years hold for you?

Will you follow in the footsteps of our Founding Fathers and fight for your freedom and independence?

Anyone who leads a busy, full life knows that four years goes by in a blink of an eye.

You can earn a college degree or an M.D. You can raise a child through the challenging toddler years to reach (exhale) the delightful pre-K stage. You can even serve a term as President of the United States. Continue reading “What will the next four years hold for you?”